Many people start their relationship with a spark and a feeling of Va-Voom, that goes onto a deeper commitment and longevity of loving intimacy.
But why is it hard to maintain the spark and feel the closeness of loving intimacy? It is a common question for many couples that I work with.
This challenge has baffled couples, and most try ways to ‘get it back’, with short term results. The trap is diminishing intimacy over time by becoming complacent and not giving each other priority. The result feeling that being platonic is as good as it’s going to get.
Is this you? …
Or maybe you know of dear friends in this predicament…
There are ways to restore the intimacy! Firstly, it’s about acknowledging the chemical cocktail of attraction that happens in the first phase of a relationship. Followed closely by the bonding cocktail that keeps you committed to each other.
But what about the spark? What about when one of you or both of you don’t want to just be best friends. You miss the intimacy and it feels diluted, uninteresting and..well…at arm’s length.
Common reasons thrown about include pressures of everyday life, work-life balance, children and routine.
But, the number one reason comes down to this – prioritising everything other than intimacy. Intimacy can be nurtured through sensual play, magnetism and lovemaking.
The benefits of sensual play include the rise of the ‘feel good hormones’ involved in arousal and satisfaction. Playing with your senses enlivens your capacity to experience pleasure, inviting you to want more of the same with your partner.
The benefits of magnetism allow for the spark to stay ignited. When women and men can connect with deeper feelings and sensations in their body, sexual imbalances can smooth out. Sex is less in the mind, and becomes a fuller, all body experience.
The benefits of connected lovemaking are what take our relationship to the feeling of deep satiation. Deeply satisfied, more so than any mate or friend can provide. There is nothing like it in comparison, which is why we desire it in our relationships. Deep connection in lovemaking leads to higher desires for more lovemaking. Disconnected lovemaking reduces desire.
Simple ways to raise the intimacy include:
– Don’t second guess each other. Start to have the deeper conversations to air out what you desire and find ways to activate the spark. The conversations you are afraid to have will often ignite a deeper sense of connection as you share in vulnerability.
– Make a date with pleasure – prioritise intimacy. Include intention setting and eye gazing for 5-10 minutes before touch play. This creates synchronisation of your bodies and energetic space.
– Giving and receiving, use sounds or words to let your partner know how you feel. Sounds are encouraging in intimacy and add to the heightened sense of pleasure. YOUR INVITATION AWAITS…
Journey deeper with me in Ignite Your Intimacy Program. As a limited offer, you and your partner can be guided through a deeply personal and satisfying journey of accessing pleasure zones in your bodies. See below for more information.
3 x 2.5 hour couples sessions:
Session 1. sensual play – learn how to tantalise each other, to feel more sensation and hold more sexual energy in your body
Session 2. magnetism, polarity and attraction – learn and practice techniques that spark the vitality and attraction in your body (as a man, as a woman) that adds to the ‘feel good’ hormones that keep the spark alive between youSession 3. love-making – learn tantric lovemaking techniques that you can take home and practise. The average lovemaking session for Australians is 16 minutes, with 5.4 mins to climax – there are ways to extend your lovemaking into a deeply satisfying experience.
As an added BONUS:
Online module Tantra for Women – (includes teachings and practices to open your receptivity and feminine flow)
Online module Tantra for Men – (includes teachings and practices for cultivating masculine potency and depth)
Post session notes and reading material – to keep referencing time and time again!Contact me today to ascertain if this program can support you in your relationship